Don’t Blame God
A few phrases I hear that drive me crazy, and what I usually don’t say in reply:
“I know it will work out, because God would not have put me into this if He was not going to get me out.“
Maybe God did not put you there; maybe it was your doing.
“God only gives us what we can handle.“
Unfortunately, most of us have a bad habit of biting off more than we can chew, and then blaming it on God.
“God’s Word shall not return void.“
This is used to claim that a prayer will be answered as we prayed it, or sharing the Gospel will result in salvation. This seems more like witchcraft to me. The scripture that is misquoted here is from Isaiah, and it’s about the words God speaks, not what we say:
“So shall My word be that goes forth from My mouth; It shall not return to Me void, But it shall accomplish what I please, And it shall prosper in the thing for which I sent it.”[Isaiah 55:11 NKJV]
“It’s a sign.”
You can make anything a sign. Some folks live their life by perceived signs, and make a mess of things.
“I’m waiting for a sign.“
Jesus had some rude words for those who are looking for signs.
“I don’t know why He led me into that deal/choice that cost me a million dollars/my house/my marriage, but I know it was Him.“
Or, maybe your pride won’t let you admit you made a mistake?
Basically all of these have a way of putting on God things that are often not God’s doing. These are ways of excusing our errors, justifying our actions, or allowing us to feel good about continuing to do something that is somewhere between silly and suicidal.
In addition, just once I would like to hear someone say “I thought it was God, but now I know I was wrong.” I have had people continue to say something was God when it so clearly was not, and it’s just annoying!
Just to pretend this rant is marriage related ;-) Do you ever use God to cover your mistakes with your bride? I’m pretty sure that is a good way to get in bad with both of them!
Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:
Better Husbands and Fathers
The Sexually Unavailable Wife: A very good guest post by Julie Sibert of Intimacy In Marriage.
Black and Married with Kids
Whatever You Dwell on Will GROW: Another outstanding post by Harriet Hairston. Adding Harriet to my list of people I want to meet.
Kiss Your Spouse!: Can’t argue with the need for more spouse kissing!
VIDEO: Trinity UCC Married Couples Ministry Dance Shuts It Down!!!: Real couples (some married over 40 years) showing their love in a choreographed dance. I’m not big on watching dance, but the love I saw in this was awesome!
Happily Married After
The Finance Meeting: Do you have a regular financial meeting at home? Maybe you should!
Journey to Surrender
Man Up Monday – Letter to a Weary Husband: Scott has gone past talking to himself, and is now writing to himself. The result is worth reading.
To The Wife of a Weary Husband: Now Scott’s alter ego has a wife, and the letter to her is also good reading.
Stop Annoying Me, Dear!: A video that will make you think more of your bride and less of her beautiful imperfections.
Does Marriage Counseling Work?: Lori Lowe has more stats – this time on the efficacy of marriage counselling.
How Do You Define Intimacy?: Lori discusses the book I will be reading on a plane today – 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage by Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo of One Extraordinary Marriage
ONE Extraordinary Marriage
Your Marriage – Michelle & Rich Bass: A guest post on blended families.
The Romantic Vineyard