Your account is overdrawn
This is a spin-off from Relationships and Currency by Chris Brogan.
Our words and actions are very much the currency of our relationships. Built-up good will can cover us when we blow it, and past poor performance makes it difficult to get excited when we do something right. What’s more, this currency has an expiration date – you can’t just bank some now for when you might need it next year.
The more you do for her, the nicer you are, the more loving things you say, the better your account balance is with her. If, on the other hand, you have been ignoring her for a while, or worse yet being snippy, then your account is overdrawn and you can’t afford much of anything until you do something about that.
And yes, sex requires relationship currency. Not because it’s prostitution, but because it’s a very intimate act that most women neither want nor enjoy if their husband is overdrawn.