For a good marriage you need 4-3-3-2-2
A recent story in CBCNews (Canada) got one’s attention with the headline “Kids, go to the store: poll says thrice weekly sex saves marriages“. The article reported on a study done in the UK of 3000 adults married for ten or more years. Based on this, it was suggested how often couples need to engage in certain activities to have a healthy marriage. Those numbers were:
- Kiss 4 times a day
- Cuddle 3 times a day
- Have sex 3 times a week
- Share 2 hobbies
- Have 2 romantic dinners a month
That’s a pretty good list. Assuming there is some communication in there, I’d also say it’s a fairly complete list. The real strength of this is that you can’t do those things, in those amounts, if you are angry, distant, or not together enough. Making the time for all of that will greatly benefit your marriage, and if you start to miss those goals, it’s an indication that something is wrong and changes need to be made.