The Second law of thermodynamics says that entropy, or disorder, must increase in a close system. In my words, that means that things breakdown and fall apart. In order to keep something as it is, you have to apply work, and to make something better you have to apply more work. This is absolutely true for marriage. No matter how good it is, it will get worse if you do nothing, and will get worse a bit more slowly if you don’t do enough. If you want your marriage to get better, you have to apply work, and you have to do it consistently. To put it another way, marriage is a trip up the down escalator – if you are standing still, you are losing ground!
Another thought – you can’t “bank” your efforts now for later. Imagine a fellow who spends one winter afternoon changing his car’s oil several times – so he won’t have to do it again for a full year. It doesn’t work that way!
Note: hiswifeslover tried to steal my thunder on this with his comment on my last post.