I don’t hate you, just what you do.
Seth did a great post entitled When you criticize my choices… in which he points out that criticizing someone’s choices is an attack on that person. Similarly, when we criticize our brides, for what they do, or say, or think, or like, we are attacking them. We are saying they are wrong, or stupid, or unimportant.
Just because it’s not how you would do it, does not mean it’s wrong or bad. Just because she likes something you don’t like, or does not like something you like, does not mean there is something wrong with her.
Perhaps one of the most harmful things men do to their brides is to call things they say or do “silly” – or show by their actions that they think she is silly. On the surface, this seems like light teasing, but it can be deeply hurtful, especially over time. Seeing her as silly is dismissing her, relegating her to a place of irrelevance.