How can I provoke you?

And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works” Hebrews 10:24 KJV

I chose the KJV for this passage because it uses the word “provoke”, which is a better rendering of the Greek than something like “stir up”. The Greek word could be translated as “inciting” or “irritate”.

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Why would I want to provoke, incite, or irritate you? Because I really want all of you to have better marriages. Daily I come across husbands on-line (and occasionally in real life) that just don’t get it. Because of their selfishness, or their past, or their laziness, or simple cluelessness, they are doing things they should not and not doing things they should. Given the male propensity to be thick-headed, hints don’t do much, and warning are often ignored. So, I want to provoke you to be better husbands, fathers, and lovers, in order that your marriage will improve.

Now that you know why, here is my attempt to provoke: Real men are good husbands, even when the cost is high. A man who won’t go several extra miles to bless his bride is more of a boy than a man.

Feel free to provoke your friends!

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Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:


Bonus – Have you seen the Fit Marriage site yet? If not, Physical Fitness and Physical Intimacy is a good start.


Better Husbands and Fathers

Valentine’s Day Ideas for Your Wife: Some good ideas here.


Black and Married with Kids

Essential Personnel: “Attention All Husbands and Wives: Upon acceptance of your position (the date of your marriage), you were deemed ESSENTIAL PERSONNEL. Therefore, you must report to work on time everyday and you are not eligible for Liberal Leave. ” << I like it!

Happily Married After

Give Me a Kiss: Guys, this is a woman writing – take heed.
Oprah Is Right About Marriage, For a Change: I agree with David here.

Intimacy in Marriage

3 Things You Should Know About Your Husband’s Penis: This is by a woman and for women, and might be a useful thing to send to your bride.

Journey to Surrender

Ceremony & Certificate vs. Covenant & Commitment: Scott has done some nice digging to find the truth of Pew Research survey done for Time Magazine.

Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage

The Importance of Fathers: From a study quoted in the article “it is the religious practice of the father of the family that, above all, determines the future church attendance of the children.”

The Romantic Vineyard

10 Hindrances To Cultivating A Romantic Vineyard: #2 – Unrealistic Expectations: Did you enter marriage with expectations that are making both of you miserable?
Mark Your Calendar: Cancel, or reschedule?

2 Comments on “How can I provoke you?

  1. I love the purposefulness of this passage. And how it sets the standard of positive action. Not just not harming others.
    I left a previous men’s group I was in partly because the other ‘men’ thought that doing the dishes on occasion was big time service to their brides. What chumps.
    Any way, I like it when I am held to account for doing good. It’s good for me. Like Paul said “When I set my mind to do good sin is right there with me.” I need men around me to provoke me to goodness sometimes.

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