Agreeing in prayer

Couple praying as one © Mark Bojovic |

The Bible tells us that there is power in agreeing in prayer. And while I cannot prove it biblically, I think this is even more true when a husband and wife agree in prayer.

The problem, often, is being in agreement. Different theology, life experience, hopes, fears, and personality traits mean two people can look at the same situation and feel moved to pray in very different ways. It can be tempting to “go along” with something you don’t feel just to get along – but that is not agreeing. Others will try to work out a compromise, but that is also not agreement. Maybe you can get down to a “least common denominator” prayer that eliminates the things you don’t both feel. While that is agreement, it does not seem to me to be what Jesus meant.

Given the potential power of fully agreeing in prayer, I think it’s worth a bit of verbal “wrestling” to find a point of agreement. By wrestling, I do not mean each of you trying to prove you are right and the other is wrong. Rather express what you feel and why, and hear what she has to say, and why. Be open to the reality that she will see some things you do not, and see some situations more clearly than she does – just as you will sometimes have clearer vision.

Image Credit: © Mark Bojovic |

Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:


Better Husbands and Fathers

Be a Better Father by Taking Care of Yourself: A great post – and I would add that it is also true if you change father to husband .
Matt Hasselbeck, XXXChurch, and National Porn Sunday: I’m sorry I did not know about this earlier. What is your church doing about the “elephant in the pew”?

Black and Married with Kids

10 Things Wrong With You – In Your Marriage: Eric Payne has done a wonderful job of adapting the ideas in Marshall Goldsmith’s book What Got You Here Won’t Get You There to marriage. How many of her top ten have you been guilt of this past week? How about the past month?

God Centered Marriage

HOW MUCH WILL IT COST?: A great priority check post.
Praying the Scriptures: I know some folks don’t get into this, but it can be powerful. If you’ve never heard of it, check it out.
Act Like You’re Dating Day: If you acted then how you act now, would you be married to her?

Happily Married After

Valentine’s Day: Repurposed: This is for those of you who “don’t do” V-day, and those of you who only do it because you know you must.
Articulation: A well articulated post!

Intimacy in Marriage

Modesty is Destroying Your Sexual Intimacy: In this post Julie does a great job of discussing the tension between public modesty and being privately “crazy with passion beneath the sheets with the man to whom she pledged her life .”

Journey to Surrender

Are You Promoting (Your) Marriage?: Yes, yes, YES! Let’s show the world what marriage is supposed to look like!

One Flesh Marriage

Now You’re Speaking My Language: In this post, Brad does an interesting follow up on my Do Love Languages Change? post.
Oh yeah, Baby . . . touch me there!: And Kate’s follow up to Brad’s follow up.
God’s Exit Ramp: I LOVE this because Brad is harping on one of my pet peeves in which well meaning Christians say something that is not found in the Bible. Brad goes on to do justice to what the passage is supposed to mean.

The Romantic Vineyard

10 Hindrances to Cultivating A Romantic Vineyard #3 – Sickness : How do you do on the sickness part of in “sickness and health”?
Fragrant Aroma – NOT: This is what acts of service looks like.

Simple Marriage

30 Ways to be Intimate With Your Wife: A well done guest post, with some great ideas. Check it out.
10 Tips to Living a Mindful Marriage: Being with your spouse does not always mean you are with them.

One Comment on “Agreeing in prayer

  1. Paul,
    What I love most about praying with Tom is it helps me hear his heart in a way conversation with me never reveals. He is pouring out his heart to his Father in Heaven. I am often taken aback by his transparency, which allows me to see more deeply into his heart. It is what makes prayer such an intimate time for us as husband and wife.

    However, this being the case, we still don’t pray together on a regular basis. This is one of our hot topics for the year – not “hot” in being hot tempered, but hot in what we’re currently going after. Thanks for the confirmation and a great post!

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