What’s more important, the start, or the growth?
I had originally put Does It Matter How Your Marriage Starts? in my Sunday links, but then I decided I wanted to say more about it than I could there.
I think how a marriage starts does matter, and can help, or hinder, HOWEVER, I fully agree with Tara that how a marriage grows and matures is far more important than how it starts. I’ve seen many who “start well” but fail to do well. I’ve seen others who start off poorly, or wrongly, but rally to the challenge and end up with a great marriage. To some degree, my bride and I are in the latter category – we started with plenty of problems, and I know some of our “friends” were betting on how long we would last. We are a testimony to what can happen when a couple is dedicated to having a great, godly marriage – no matter what baggage they bring into the marriage, or what mistakes they make before or after they wed.
No matter how you started, or where you are now, you can still choose to do better, to grow, to have a good, strong, healthy marriage. Yes, it helps if your spouse commits to it to, but most of the time you can make a change all by yourself – if you stick to it.
One other nag – PLEASE don’t see anyone’s marriage “as a mistake”. Once a couple is married, it is God’s will for that couple to have a great marriage. Even if it was out of God’s will for them to marry, once they do marry, He is for them. If you are not for them, then you are at odds with God. Regardless of how wrong you think a couple was to marry, your responsibility is to pray for them and help them in any way you can.
Follow Up on yesterday: There are some good helps here for writing a love letter.
Great link: As Sunday will be a bit late for this, let me suggest you check out Why Lingerie Might Be A Terrible Valentine’s Day Gift by Stu Gray. (The page is okay, but watch some of the links on it.)
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