I’ve recently become aware of the term “self soothing”, and I think it’s an important concept. Self-soothing is doing things that calm and relax you. This is not the same as recreation – shooting Nazi zombies or doing 50 push-ups is fun and beneficial, but these activities do not sooth us. Just as we need to have times of fun, we need to have times of calm. A lack of calm is harmful to our bodies, our minds, and to our marriages.
What can sooth? A few ideas to get you started:
- A cup of tea. Take the time to brew it, and sip it, slowly, while doing nothing.
- Watching a sunset.
- Reading – if it’s not study or action packed.
- Listening to music – as in closing your eyes and really listening.
- Watching a slide show (or screen saver) of beautiful nature images.
Find a thing or two that sooth you, and make them a part of your day. Additionally, when you feel stressed, self-sooth. The time the activity takes is not wasted, you will actually be more productive, and get more done in the long run, if you slow down and relax a bit.