Sabbath Rest

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Do you have a day of rest? A day when you don’t do anything too strenuous physically, don’t do any work on your job, spend time with God, your bride, your kids, and devout yourself to resting and relaxing.

I can hear you thinking “A whole day? Ain’t nobody got time for that!” Yeah, I know, my life is like that too. However, over the last year or so I’ve been seeing the wisdom of a day of rest. (Maybe God knew something when He commanded it to the Jews of old?) I haven’t gotten to where every Sunday is what I described above, but I have worked in that direction, and some Sundays are a true Sabbath rest.

Of course, you don’t have to make your day of rest Sunday. Maybe you have other things that make Sunday unavoidably busy, and if you’re a pastor Sunday is probably your busiest day. It’s not the day of the week that matters; what matters is a day of the week that is consistently given to unwinding, recharging, and reconnecting with those who matter most.

Bonus: Among the Jews of old, it was said that sex was a blessing, and sex on the Sabbath was a double blessing!

Got 15 minutes? Get a better marriage! Last week while flying I finally got a chance to read 15 Minute Marriage Makeover by Dustin of Engaged Marriage (Aff Link). The premise of the book is simple – you and your bride commit to fifteen minutes a day to work on your marriage. Over four weeks the book takes you through several areas that commonly need work. It’s a simple idea, but the thought and lay out is far from simple. I was impressed with what Dustin has put together, and I can see how it would help many couples. If you have a functional marriage and want it to be a lot better, this e-book is for you. If you have significant problems, or you know you and your bride won’t do fifteen minutes a day, skip it.

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Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:

New blog this week – Dirty Girls. This ministry is aimed at women who struggle with porn use – growing problem that is rarely discussed. A great resource for your bride if she is dealing with porn.


Couple Things Blog

Making Time: Are you making time for what counts?

Dirty Girls

Why the Internet is Full of Temptations (and what we can do about it): This guest post from Luke Gilkerson applies to men and women.

Intimacy in Marriage

The 10 Worst Mistakes You Can Make When Talking To Your Kids About Sex Part One and Part Two: A couple of great articles, and a good resource list at the end.

Journey to Surrender

The “Obey” Question: Nice of Scott to write this so I can point to it with a nod and a smile.

Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage

It’s Dangerous for Men to “Follow Their Feelings”: A battle cry worth following.

Marriage Gems

Keep Your Marriage Stronger by Fighting Smarter: A BRILLIANT MUST READ article that draws from the book Spousonomics.
Splitting Chores 50-50 with Spouse is Recipe for Disaster: Another great post from Lori’s reading of Spousonomics
The Truth about Sex in Marriage: Good information and insights.

One Flesh Marriage

What’s Influencing Your Needle?: A great article with a punny title.

Project M

The Singles-Marrieds Divide, The Division of Singles and Marrieds in the Church, andDo Single People Hate Hanging out with Married People?: Kathleen has some musings on singles and marrieds in the church. This is an important issue that does not get discussed nearly enough.

Romantic Act of the Day

A Public Declaration: Tell her you love her while the world listens in.
Take Care of Her: A great thing to start on Mother’s day – and carry through the year.
Watch Your Eyes: Rich is not buying the “Just because I’m married doesn’t mean I can’t look” line.
Be Sensitive to Her Stress Level: Or don’t – and you will both suffer.
Start Her a Collection: A great gift giving short-cut!

The Romantic Vineyard

Are You Defensive?: Why you should be defensive in your marriage.
Romantic Orlando – Cheers!: There is an app for this.

Simple Marriage

Marriage retreats, getaways, and enrichment: Be sure to add to this list if you know of good resources.

9 Comments on “Sabbath Rest

  1. Yup, every Sabbath (Friday sundown to Saturday sundown) we take off, getting all our housework done before then, and we try not to do any unnecessary work on that day. We don’t do any business, and we spend the day enjoying nature, having family time, making love, and generally enjoying the holiday! (Holy day!) :) It SO nice to look forward to God’s weekly gift!
    God said it, so we do it! :)

    • I work two jobs, but I don’t work on Sunday. I’ll make coffee before church, I might putter in the afternoon, but otherwise I do nothing on Sunday.

      I tell my clients that I answer all email the same day it is sent, but I don’t answer email on Sunday because that’s the day I spend with my family. They always nod their head in appreciation.

  2. I’d like to commend Kathleen for identifying Gods, “Sabbath.” It’s important to REMEMBER this, the longest Commandment which is the only thing in the Bible that God, “Blessed, Hallowed & Sactified.” It begins with the word, “Remember” as God knew that it would be forgotten or replaced. God made the “Seventh Day Sabbath” a covenant between God & his people to identify that we are his people & HE is our God. Often Modern Christians would claim that Jesus relieved us of the responsibility (Destroyed) of the Law (commandments) though Jesus himself knew this & stated that he didn’t come to destroy but fulfill. The last Chapter of the last Book of the Bible, Rev 22:14, states, “Blessed are those who do His Commandments, that they may have the right to the treee of life, and enter through the gates into the city.” The next sentence emphasizes that Outside the City Gates are those whoever loves and practices a lie. God doesn’t make mistakes & thus his “Seventh Day Sabbath” cannot be changed by anyone or anything that is of God and therefore, honor of any other day as Gods Sabbath is not of God. I’ve been raised in a Sunday worship practicing family but with the Spirits guidance, I’ve been given this truth and am trying to change from my practice of this “lie” so that I too may enter into the covenant of the Lord. Physically & mentally, our bodies are designed to experience a day of rest within each week but spiritually, it’s only acceptance & joyful honoring of Gods Holy Sabbath that will allow us the full bounty of Gods Gift. I encourage the careful reading of all of Gods word but in regard to the Sabbath, pay special attention. Read Rev. 22 and pay special attention to the words, “keep”, “keeps”, “according to his works”, “his commands”, “practices a lie”, “everyone who hears the words of prophecy of this book”, “if anyone ADDS to these things”, “if anyone takes away from the words of the book of this prophecy.” All of these are references to the Commandments of God and specifically His Sabbath. Read it! Remember it! When you read, “here is the patience of the saints; her are those who keeps the commandments of God and the faith of Jesus.” REMEMBER it’s relationship to the Sabbath. It’s the mark of God. It’s on our foreheads (in our decisions) & on our hands (the works we do). If Gods Sabbath is the mark of God, then what might the mark of the beast be? It is no accident that the 4th Commandment begins with the word, “REMEMBER.” God knew that Satan would make it almost impossible to remember with a False Sabbath. I beg of you to Remember his commands, His Sabbath, His Gift for those who love Him.

    • @Mitchael – I do not wish to get into a long argument about this. If it were just about the day of the Sabbath I would not even comment. However, what you say would require all of us to follow the entire law, and on that I can not remain silent.

      Those who know Greek argue about the meaning of “fulfill” in the Matt 5:17 passage. The Greek word is used two ways – to “fill up” and “to complete”. I go with the second, and see verse 18 a supporting that since the word used there for fulfilled is a different Greek word which is not ambiguous, meaning “accomplished” or “comes to pass.”

      Beyond this, I always look to Gal 3:23-26 which likens the law to a “child conductor” Tutor is an inaccurate translation – the Greek word is for a slave who took a child to and from school. Paul is very clear in verse 25 ” But after faith has come, we are no longer under a tutor.”

      All that said I have friends who believe as you do, and we manage to get along just fine! Blessings.

      • Since you are reminded of Paul’s teachings, I urge you to review what Paul has to say in Colossians 2:8 “Beware least anyone cheat you through philosophy and empty deceit, according to the tradition of men, according to the basic principles of the world, and not according to Christ.”

        When I read this, the only tradition of men that conflict with the commandments seem to me to be the day of Sabbath observance and the kneeling & praying before idols of images (the cross, pictures & sculptures) and the likenesses of Christ and the Saints. Though we are not slaves to the law, we are children of the Law. Christ didn’t encourage us to exempt the Commandments from our lives but to avoid judgement of other according to the law & avoid boastfulness of our own observance to the law.

  3. I hope people don’t feel that way about the rest of the commandments.
    It’s ok though. Be convinced in your own mind. I was, and now I have a great gift.

  4. Paul,
    I’m very sorry if I gave you the impression that I was making effort to start, “a long argument” or even a short argument. I mean not to argue about God’s Word. I have no desire to argue about anything, Especially God’s Word. It’s was written & given to us as a gift to receive. That’s all I can do with it. Receive it, Love it, be thankful for it and try with the best of my ability to share & hope that those I’m fortunate enough to share it with will too receive it. I realize that there are a never-ending number of beliefs that continue to arise from the writings of the Word. I anticipate that the beliefs and teachings of the Bible will increase in number and variety until its prophecies are all fulfilled. Though this is inevitable, due to humanity’s many agenda’s, I find it very sad that ANY teaching might conflict with ANY aspect of God’s Word. I suspect that the origin of these conflicting understandings is related to each Bible Book Authors individual limitations in their ability to use the written expression of their understanding, emotions and psychological responses to their own personal spiritual experiences and awareness. However, there is one aspect of the Bible (AND ONLY ONE) That isn’t bound to these limitations and is written by an Author who knows exactly how to strategically use each word to make his writings easily understandable to any reader and to specifically & intentionally use every word in the order & expression needed to make it crystal clear & indisputable. Even though it is indisputable, no other author or interpreter could ever claim to have greater knowledge or understanding than the actual author of the Commandments. The Bible makes it clear that the Commandments were written by the actual hand of God. That is why Jesus insisted that he didn’t come to destroy the Law because Jesus Knows God the Father and Jesus was there on the day of creation & these command’s or “Law’s” that Jesus is referring to are His Command’s, His Law’s, His instructions, His gifts. God didn’t give us these Commands to restrict us or to persecute us. We have all been given this gift of awareness so that we can know in our hearts when or what to ask forgiveness for. We have been given the divine knowledge to allow us to identify that which is not of God. We have been given the blessings of God’s Commandments to protect us from the world, from sin, from spiritual isolation. We have been given these gifts to allow us to be closer to God & to allow the Holy Spirit to be closer to us.

    I am sorry that I created a negative emotional response from you. I love you and I love The Generous Husband, Lori & The Generous Wife, the marriage bed and all of the works that you & Lori do to help provide people with better understanding of so many aspects of marriage, sexuality and especially spirituality. It was never my intent to hurt feelings or point fingers in any way but the Holy Spirit has convicted my metaphorical heart to study and better understand God’s Word about the Sabbath. I’ve learned a great deal since the time that I first realized that Sunday was not the seventh day of the week. When God gave me this understanding, it was very difficult for me to believe and when I did finally believe, it was difficult to accept and when I finally accepted it, it was socially difficult for me to even attempt to follow. I had lived the 1st 27yrs of my life in a Baptist home and that was all I knew. I spent 9yrs fighting and running from this truth (& it is a truth) before I give my heart back to God and surrendered to his truth. It has caused some disunity in my extended family and social life but it has brought me far greater spiritual enlightenment than I could have ever hoped for. I am ending this response as I begin the joyful celebration & rest of God’s Sabbath & I am so happy and so thankful that I’ve been given such a beautiful day to look back on my accomplishments and to bask in the Glory of God & all that he has given to me. I love you Paul and I don’t want to argue but surely you don’t want me to restrain from sharing what God has given to me & what God offer to all who are willing to accept. When I made my original post, it wasn’t because I didn’t have anything better to do. It wasn’t because I was bored and wanted to stir up some trouble to get some kicks. I sent my response because I felt the Holy Spirit leading me to a response and I tried to respond as I felt led to. It may not have been intended specifically for you but maybe to one of your readers but I believe with all my heart, that I was led to that response by God so that it could be used as a tool to aid someone who did or eventually will read it. Please don’t think I’m trying to argue a case because I’m not. I’m simply sharing God’s truth as I have come to know it because the Holy Spirit is guiding me to do so. God Bless you and may you & Lori have a wonderful and Loving Sabbath today & every week until the day of His joyfully anticipated return.

    Amen (From H539; sure; abstractly faithfulness; adverbially truly: – Amen, so be it, truth.

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