Are you getting your 12-15 hours a week?
Saw this tweet from @loveconscious today:
“Researchers like John Gottman tell us that successful couples spend a minimum of 12-15 hours non-sleep, non TV time together.”
I have a great deal of respect for John Gottman and his observation-based information on marriage, so I tend to think there is some validity in this statement. As I have said more than once, quality time comes about within quantity time. A deep relationship takes a lot of time to build, a lot of time to maintain, and a lot of time is required to keep a relationship growing. If you are not devoting the necessary time, your relationship is not what it could be.
Additionally, please note that most women only feel sexual when they feel connected. If you are not spending enough time with her, it is adversely affecting your sex life. If it’s not already limiting your sex life, it will. I’m not saying more time together will cause a sudden improvement in sex, but for most of you it would result in an improvement over time. On the other hand, a lack of time together will cause your sex life to get worse, over time. At the very least you can slow or stop the deterioration of your sex life.
How much non-TV, waking, time did you and your bride share last week? How is it looking for this week? If you’re not even close to the suggested 12-15 hours, what would it take to make that happen? What would you have to change, give up, or get under control? Is it worth it to you? I she worth it to you?
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