Do you ever feel you did something well enough to get by? It’s not exactly right, but it’s close enough?
The Bible calls that sin. Okay, not exactly, but the idea of close-but-not-perfect is really the meaning of the Greek word translated as sin. The word is an archery term that means, “to miss the mark”. In short, either you hit the bull’s eye, or you don’t. You hit it, or you sin. Granted there are things where “close” is not a sin in the way we mean that word, but I think it’s still a problem, and a bad habit. Trying and missing is one thing – but choosing to miss, choosing to not do as well as you could, is another. It’s easy to get lax about how close is close enough. Once you give in to that, the tendency is to slowly drift farther and farther from the mark – and that will end badly.
Also, realise that what you do does not just affect you – it affects your bride as well. When you settle for less than the best, you put that on her too. She does the same to you when she misses the mark by choice. Have you agreed to lovingly help each other do better? Are you challenged to do better for each other?
Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:
A Grown Up Marriage
Wow, That Hurt: Think not speaking up when your spouse hurts you is loving?
Black and Married with Kids
HOODWINKED: This is not really a marriage or sex related post , but as a member of the majority culture who has a clue how little he understands what it means to be black in America, I very much would like y’all to read this. If nothing else, skip down to the statics at the bottom. Now you know the truth.
How Much Time Are You Giving Your Marriage?: Some good ideas on way to better connect.
Intimacy in Marriage
Altar of Ideal Conditions: Are You Sacrificing Your Sexual Intimacy?: Lori Lowe’s guest post in the ongoing series. The research says “Just do it!”
3 Things We Can Learn From Anthony Weiner About Sex: Julie makes great points here. Are you as above reproach as you think?
Journey to Surrender
Man Up and Lead With Love: “I think the biggest reason husbands don’t do better at loving their wives as Christ loves the church is because they don’t really know how Christ loves the church.” « AMEN!
Love, Respect and Submission: In Part 6 of “What I Believe About Marriage” Scott once again says what I think far better than I could say it.
MT Project: Don’t Harm Your Spouse: Don’t even get close to harming them!
One Flesh Marriage
Reclaim Your Anniversary!: It’s important, and worth the “trouble”.
Romantic Act of the Day
The Romantic Vineyard
A Fragrant Aroma – Capturing Moments: Read what Debi has to say about Tom – this man knows how to make his bride feel loved!
How to go from good to great in marriage: “A MUST READ. A good marriage is the enemy of a great marriage.” « This is so true!