Be angry, BUT …
That verse proves that anger, in and of its self, is not sin. However, it also shows us that anger can very easily lead us into sin – especially if it’s not dealt with quickly. I see a lot of harm done to marriages by anger – both his and hers. I see women afraid of their husband, or afraid to say or do certain things, or not afraid but unwilling to do something that will subject them to anger. I see men who avoid saying and doing things, including things they need to say and do, to avoid their wife’s wrath. Anger is a poison that kills a marriage from the inside out.
I’m going to spend a couple of days talking about anger in hopes that some of you who have anger problems, or a bride with an anger problem, will see the reality of the situation and choose to deal with it before it’s too late.
Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:
New Blog this week: Battle for a Great Marriage is another blog I have found because of Twitter. Gotta love the title – a great marriage can be a real battle – but it;’s a battle we can and must win!
A Grown Up Marriage
What’d You Expect?: “Building a strong marriage is difficult because it forces us to face our own worst enemy, our own selfishness.” « SO TRUE!
Another Post About Sex, Kinda…: A great extension of my thoughts in the recent If I Don’t Admit it, It’s Not True post.
How to Fight Effectively – And Win: Is fighting while upset blinding you to reality?
Battle for a Great Marriage
Married and Not Having Sex: “Let me be clear – If you are married and are not having sex with your spouse, something is desperately wrong. Go get some professional help.” « I agree!
Why Are We Not Having Sex?: A good start to dealing with a sexless marriage.
I Just Can’t Have Sex With My Spouse: Reasons why she might feel she can’t have sex.
Married and Having Duty Sex: Interesting thoughts on “duty” as found in some versions of 1 Cor 7:3.
Do You Want Sex With Your Spouse?: Resources for women with low sex drive.
Black and Married with Kids
Who Are Your Marriage Mentors: If you don’t have marriage mentors, why not?!
Journey to Surrender
Subtle Winds: Self-Care? What about Spouse Care?
Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage
The Church’s Answer to Immorality – Part Two: “This whole stupid idea that young people must delay marriage is what I believe to be the single most detrimental thing that we do in Christian culture today.” I agree with Mark fully on this (and have taken heat for it many times!)
One Flesh Marriage
Turn or Burn to Sexual Confidence: Brad (rightly) tells us there is nothing you can do to make your bride a sexually confident wife – and plenty you can do to keep her from becoming that.
Make Room for Sexual Confidence: Kate follows the above with some ways a man can make room for his bride to become sexually confident. THIS IS A MUST READ if your wife is not sexually confident!
Erase the Marriage Money Arguments: Some great ideas for making money matters less of a problem in your marriage.
Romantic Act of the Day
Sunrise, Sunset : Great advice – do it this week!
The Romantic Vineyard
The importance of dreaming together: Yes, this is VERY important.
Marriage in the Bible> Adam and Eve: Some interesting thoughts on the first married couple.
Winning at Romance
How to Become Less Sensitive so Your Feelings Are Not Hurt in the Bedroom: More than a few guys need to read this one.