The “power” of fear and avoidance
One reason we continue being angry is it gives us a real sense of power. Anger makes us feel strong, in control, and righteous. Who can argue with righteous anger? Of course, how righteous the anger is would be a very good issue to discuss, but anger does not allow discussion, and any challenge of anger’s validity is met with more anger. It becomes a viscous loop, a one choice solution to any problem or challenge.
Anger often gets us what we want – or at least it seems to get us what we want. Unfortunately, the truth about anger is very different. If we stay in our anger, if we add more and more anger, it will push out everything else. The target of our anger will retreat, and we are left awash in a sea of anger.
About the image:
Anger, oil on board, 48″ x 42″, 2008, by Craig Hawkins
I received this image from one of you with this note:
It originated from Proverbs 27:4 “Wrath is fierce and anger is a flood, But who can stand before jealousy?” I focused on the flood analogy and realized that a flood will ruin where you live and pick you up and take you where you do not want to go.
The image so perfectly fit this post, I asked to share it. Thanks Craig!