My bride and I spent much of the afternoon and evening with friends today – just hanging out. It was wonderful. It didn’t hurt that they live in a beautiful place surrounded by trees and mountains, or that it was nice enough for us to sit outside in the shade (I LOVE the Northwest!) – but what was great was just relaxing and talking, with nothing we had to do.
I am convinced that we need more of this. By we, I don’t just mean my bride and I; I mean society – at least most of the USofA. We work too hard, push too much, do too much, and it’s killing our bodies and our marriages.
Is your life too busy? Would more nothing-to-do-but-relax time make your marriage better? Talk with your bride about this, think and pray on it. Consider change.
Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:
New blog this week ”husband”, a user’s guide” is another Twitter find. Good, solid biblical advice from someone who has been doing marriage a lot longer than I have.
A Grown Up Marriage
Dealing with Our Negative Emotions: This is a tough but true and important message.
Black and Married with Kids
What Happens When You Treat Your Spouse As Your Enemy: An excellent article that warns we tend to get what we expect.
All By Myself: Why My Husband Doesn’t Read Good Enough Mother: Is this woman describing you? If so, read and see how your inattention to your bride’s life makes her feel.
Couple Things Blog
Going Solo: Marriage Counseling on Your Own: If she won’t go, go without her.
The Gottman Sex Blog
”husband”, a user’s guide”
Journey to Surrender
The Thoughts In My Head: A self revealing post with some good thoughts that apply to many of us.
Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage
Everyone Has a Big But: Have a “but” that you use to justify your sins? Or a but that justifies how you treat your bride? Time to get off that but!
Revise Your Criticism for Better Marriage: “Presume the best” – always a wise thing to do.
One Flesh Marriage
Romantic Act of the Day
Don’t Take it out on Her : Probably a more common urge than most of us would like to admit!
Never Lose the “Wow” Factor : The power of choice – Rich gets it.
Save Those Rose Petals : Romantic AND frugal!
The Romantic Vineyard
Stupendous Marriage Show 007: Sexy Bedroom, Praying for Your Spouse, Communication Tactics: Stu and Lisa sound like they are having a lot of fun with this – listen in.
Winning at Romance
How to Stay Happy With an Unhappy Spouse: Great article.