Mental and emotional minimalism
I think it would be safe to sum up the research on more choices leading to less happiness (The paradox of choice) as “less is more”. When we have too many choices, or too many things, we are not actually happier – despite what we think/believe. Please know that I say this even though I do not want it to be true! I want to defend my “right” to have many choices and more things if I so chose. For some odd reason, I want “more can make us happier” to be truth even though research and my own life say otherwise. Then of course, there is the Bible – it’s almost as if God knew these things before some clever researchers figured them out!
To me this all sounds a lot like minimalism. Not just minimalism as in having very few things, but as in having a simpler life. Maybe it’s sacrificing stuff, and choices, for mental and emotional health and balance. Maybe our marriages would be far better if we had less, and did less. Maybe we need more of each other and of simple times with other people. I’ve said maybe here a number of times because this is outside both my experience and my comfort zone. Pray about it, discuss it with your bride, and see how it goes.
Also, please kick this idea around in the comments – I’d like to hear what others think, and especially from those who are living it.