Start by ringing out the old …
“Ring out the old, ring in the new” is an old hymn. You can find the full words and tune, here; below are the first verse and a few selected lines:
Ring out the old, ring in the new
Ring, happy bells, across the snow;
The year is going, let him go;
Ring out the false, ring in the true.
Ring out the grief that saps the mind,
Ring out the feud of rich and poor,
Ring out false pride in place and blood,
The civic slander and the spite;
Ring out the narrowing lust of gold;
Ring in the valiant man and free,
The larger heart, the kindlier hand;
We cannot make room for the new, for the change, for the good, unless we get rid of the old. If you want to be a better man/husband/father in 2012, you have to let go of the past. Regret that leads to change is good, but regret often becomes an anchor that keeps us from moving on. Wanting to make things right is a good, but if you can’t make it right you have to let go rather than being stuck. Being forgiven is great, but you have no power to make that happen. You can say you’re sorry, you can apologise, and you can forgive others unilaterally. Do what is in your power to make up for the past, and then move on.
Please don’t be a slave to who you have been in the past – move past that. Let go of the past. Let go of those who want to keep you in the past, and those who refuse to see real and sustained changes. Be more, be better. You can if you want it enough to work at it.
A huge thanks to all of you who made donations over the last 4½ weeks. We have raised more than the $5000 we were seeking. A new computer is on its way (I thank you, and my bride who wants me to keep my hair thanks you) and we have some funds to carry us into the New Year and allow us to take some time to focus on writing.
If you want to make a donation and have it counted for 2011 tax purposes, it needs to be done by PayPal before midnight Dec 31st, or postmarked by the 31st.