Agape, eros, philia, and storge

Puzzling words © Paul H. Byerly
Puzzling words

Many of you will recognise the title as the four Greek words that mean love. A study of those words will make your head hurt, and leave you wondering if you know less after the study than before you started. If you stick to biblical Greek it’s not as bad as the multitude of meanings suggested are fewer, and you only have three to contend with – eros not being in the New Testament (although it is used twice in the Greek translation of the Old Testament).

I bring this up because I would like to discuss the various feelings a married couple can have for each other, and my initial thought was to use the Greek words for love as a starting place. The more I dug into those words, the less I wanted to use them. Firstly, I don’t think they convey the thoughts I have well, and secondly I don’t want to be accused of, or guilty of, putting my own meanings onto words already burdened with far too many opinions.

So, over the next few days I will discuss the ideas of love, friendship, romance, partnership, and lust. (Lust may not be what you think it is!)

Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:


Black and Married with Kids

Don’t Use What You Know Against Your Spouse: Yes, yes, YES!!
What Phase Of Love Are You In?: I didn’t see this till I after I wrote the post above. If you want a bit on the Greek words for love, check this out.
Can Poor Nutrition Ruin The Sex In Your Marriage?: Great article by a medical doctor.

Couple Things Blog

Getting Your Game on : Play Ball!
Who Am I? Who Are You? : The importance of discovery in marriage.

Hot, Holy and Humorous

Intimacy After an Affair: A good, very balanced article.
Sex: From the Skit Guys: I bet you laugh.

Journey to Surrender

Man-Up Monday – What Are You Afraid Of?: I agree with Scott on this: “The reason there aren’t more biblical marriages today is not because too few wives are willing to submit to their husbands. It’s because too many husbands are afraid to lead.

Marriage Gems

6 Feel-Good Things Your Husband Wants You to Know: How many of these are tru for you?

Marriage Life

Progress: Measure how far you have come.
MT Project: Happiness is Created : Spot on!!

Mystery 32

The 3 letter word.: No, the other one.

One Flesh Marriage

Submission . . . Seriously?: A great round up of recent submission posts from four blogs.
Men’s Guide to Spiritually Lead Your Wife & Family: At least one of these should sting a bit …

Romantic Act of the Day

Enough money to live comfortably?: How money matters in marriage.
Picture You Perfect: She needs to make memories.
Chocolate!: You know she loves it!

Stupendous Marriage

Stop Reading Marriage Blogs: 3 Tips For When You Are Done With Marriage Advice: Great post. Reading won’t change anything!
Stupendous Marriage Show 035: Interview with Author Sheila Wray Gregoire: My favourite podcaster interviewing one of my favourite bloggers – AWSOME!

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