One Verse, a Lifetime of Effort
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful.” [1 Corinthians 13:4&5 ESV]
Years ago, I heard Dr. Juan Carlos Ortiz speak. He told a story from when his Buenos Aires church had grown to more than 1000 people:
One Sunday, after worship, Juan Carlos got up to give the message. He said ‘Brothers and sisters, my text this morning is, “Love one another.”‘ Then he closed his Bible, and returned to his seat. After a couple minutes of confusion and whispering, he got up, went to the pulpit, and again said ’Brothers and sisters, my text this morning is, “Love one another.”‘ Again he returned to his seat. A nervous elder came to whisper in his ear “Brother Juan, the people need to hear more.” Ortiz replied, “When they do what I have said, I will say more.” He waited a bit, then for a third time he got up, said ‘Brothers and sisters, my text this morning is, “Love one another.”‘ He returned to his seat.
It was then that someone in the congregation said to a person near them “I don’t know you. Is there any way I can love you?” Someone else did the same, then another. Soon the church was abuzz with people looking for ways to love each other. Juan Carlos said they had a couple of dozen unemployed people in church that morning, and every one left with a job. Single mothers and the poor went home with food, money, and commitments of on-going help. For three months, this was the only message that was preached – one simple command, “Love one another.” The “rest of the story” can be found at A Pilgrim’s Journal: Transcription: Love One Another.
With this in mind, maybe I should post nothing but the passage at the top every day for three months. I suspect I would lose most of my readers, but I wonder if a few might “get it” and start to love their wife in the ways the Bible says love should be expressed.
Those two verses sound good, and we all agree with them, but they are most difficult to live! Are you always patient and kind? Are you free of envy, boasting, and demanding your own way? Are you guilty of being irritable or resentful?
Yeah, same here. Those things are lofty goals I know I will never reach, but I continue to fight towards them day by day. When I look back, I can see I have grown a great deal; I am closer to those goals now than I was in the past. That encourages me. I continue to fail, but I have proven I can do better, and I know that with His help I will continue to improve.
Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:
Got an Unhappy Spouse? ◄ A very practical MUST READ post.
Finding Sense ◄ Because she probably is not crazy or trying to hurt you!
Flow and Your Marriage ◄ Ever experienced flow in your marriage? How about during sex?
The Generous Wife
Happily Married After
Dysfunctions in Your Marriage Team ◄ Is your marriage suffering from any of these five dysfunctions?
Hot, Holy and Humorous
Tickling the Marriage Funny Bone ◄ Great fun!
Intimacy in Marriage
Is Marriage More Than Sex? ◄ Julie argues that marital sex is more than an “optional activity”.
Clean Sex: Why Hygiene Helps Keep Things Hot ◄ “Lack of personal hygiene can be a big sexual inhibitor in marriage.”
Some Thoughts on Oral Sex… ◄ Julie lists a number of great posts about oral sex – most written by women.
Journey to Surrender
The Gray Divorce Epidemic ◄ Great thoughts on a growing problem.
Being the Spiritual Leader in Your Home; Something We Can’t Continue to Ignore « mission:husband ◄ Ready to be challenged?
Can we? Can we not? ◄ A great post showing how you can think through sexual issues biblically.
One Flesh Marriage
An Epidemic of Shame ◄ “Shame puts a choke-hold on grace.”
Romantic Act of the Day
The Romantic Vineyard
Safe at home
The Power and Privilege of A Hug ◄ Use your power wisely!