Are you playing with a full emotional deck?
Yesterday I wrote about anger. My bride has drilled into my head “Anger is a cover emotion”. We use anger to cover up “less acceptable” emotions such as humiliation, fear, and rejection. We use the anger to hide those other feelings from ourself and from others. This makes us feel safer, but it means we are not dealing with our real emotions and real issues. It also means our chances of resolving things are very poor.
Below is Plutchik’s wheel of emotions. I don’t agree with some of what Robert Plutchik concluded, but the wheel is a good tool for thinking about emotions. The first doughnut out, with joy at the top, displays eight basic emotions. Moving in or out on any spoke gives you different intensities of those emotions. The eight emotions around the outer edge are “complex emotions” which are a blending of the two emotions either side of that word – so love is a blending of joy and trust.
How many of these do you know and feel? What do the missing one’s say about you?