Who is driving your time use?
Did you read my last post, about budgeting your time, and think “might work for you, but you don’t understand my life!”?
I get it, really, I do. I know when you have kids things come up. I know friends, in-laws, your boss, and so many others drop things on you and expect you to spend some of your limited time doing something for or with them.
Maybe you need to learn to say no more often.
If you are asked to spend time on something you don’t think is important, and it robs you of time you would be devoted to what you think is important, then no is the right answer – even if it offends someone. Whom you offend and how much you offend them is a consideration, but letting others decide how you spend your time is like letting others decide how you spend your money!
If a certain friend or group of friends demands more time than you think you should give, maybe they are not such great friends. Are they worth the cost? Is what you get from them worth as much as what you would get from spending the time in another way? The same applies to family – being related to you does not give them the right to make you spend your money or your time as they think you should.
You cannot usually say no to your boss, but you can look for another job. If your job is keeping you from having a life, or keeping your wife and/or kids from having you with them, maybe you need to rethink the job. Maybe you also need to rethink how much you have so you can work less and have more time for life.