We’ve been lied to (take 2)
This post title escaped a week early due to an error on my part. Have you been wondering what I think we’ve been lied to about? Am I going to go on a political rant? Have I gone over to the conspiracy side? Could it be global warming, rock music, fluoride in drinking water (showing my age) or West Nile virus (so not missing living in Texas)? I think we’ve been lied to about many things, by many people, but since I’m all about marriage that is where I am going with this.
First, a few words about truth:
“Ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” [John 8:32 KJV]
Those words of Jesus are so famous, even though many have no idea the context of the words. Those words are inscribed above the doors of schools and courthouses around the USofA. We are big on truth, or at least on what we say the truth is; which comes from what we want the truth to be. I agree the truth does often set us free, but it can also be a burden. If you know but cannot live the truth, or know you will suffer if you try to live truth, then truth may not seem so freeing. If the truth gets between you and what you want to do, the truth is annoying. If what you hold to be truth is, in fact, not truth, or not fully true, then it is a trap that can hold you back, keep you down, or send you where you should not be. If your “truth” is at odds with the “truth” of a friend (or your spouse) the truth may cause tension and problems. If you and a friend (or your spouse) agree on something untrue, your finding the truth might threaten your friendship (or marriage).
In a way, I say this as a warning: seeking truth can upset your life. Do not start out on a search for the truth about anything without understanding the potential cost. Do not start if you are not prepared to follow truth to its core and live what you learn. If the truth about marriage requires you to make a massive change in your life, are you ready to change? If the truth about sex means you need to repent and turn from something, are you going to do so? If the truth means your bride is wrong, are you going to find a loving way to share the truth with her so she can choose to follow the truth, or not follow the truth?
If you really want to take a risk, share this post with your bride and agree to both read what follows over the next few days and to pray individually and together about what I say. Do not agree to take what I say as truth (I know I do not have it all figured out), but rather to use it as a starting place for finding truth.
NOTE: If you have adopted children, please see Forever Family below.
Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:
A Grown Up Marriage
When the Price of Peace Gets Too High ◄ A great article on the price you are willing to pay for “peace” in your marriage.
Black and Married with Kids
The 5 Love Languages (Music Video) ◄ Watch it with your bride.
10 Healthy Actions to Take When You and Your Spouse Are at Odds ◄ Great thoughts.
Husbands Stimulate Your Marriage…be “Domestic Sexy”! ◄ Fits well with a recent discussion here in the comments.
The Generous Wife
Mirror, Mirror ◄ Are you being an accurate mirror for your spouse?
Change of Season Simplifying ◄ Prepare for fall, and simplify as you go.
Living With Less ◄ Less is more – this one if for your kids.
One More Time ◄ If you are saying no to your bride sexually, PLEASE read and heed this.
Are You Sex Hungry? ◄ If your bride is sex hungry, why is that so?
Hot, Holy and Humorous
When He’s Slow to Climax ◄ If it takes you “forever” to reach orgasm, this is for you.
Intimacy in Marriage
What You Must Know About Margin ◄ Julie has an excellent, MUST READ post on margin.
Marriage Missions International
Seven Steps a Loyal Spouse Can Take to End an Affair ◄ This is by far the best thing I have ever read on this subject.
PLAN to Have a Good Marriage ◄ Those who fail to plan, plan to fail.
In Sickness and In Health ◄ Here is what that can really look like.
One Flesh Marriage
The Progression of an Affair ◄ A great look at the death spiral that is an affair.
The Romantic Vineyard
Safe at home
Putting Some Healthy Limits on Technology ◄ More marriage, less technology.
What we Can Learn From Divorce – Stupendous Marriage Show 55 ◄ Another good show – especially the title topic.