Got Sabbath? Should you?

“The Sabbath was made for man, not man for the Sabbath.” ~ Jesus, in [Mark 2:27 ESV]

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What do you think when you read that passage? Is it an excuse to not limit what you do on the “Sabbath?” Or, is the passage telling us God set aside a day of rest because He knew we need it? I am leaning more and more to the second of those. I see the effect of never ending busyness; I see the burn out, the breakdowns, and the anger between couples resulting from doing too much and resting too little. I am seeing the wisdom in the Sabbath as the Jews of old practised it, with very limited work, limited travel, and a lot of time for family. Yes, worship was an important part, but so was relaxing, spending time with family and friends, and if you were married, having sex. (“Sex is a blessing and sex on the Sabbath is a double blessing.”)

Do you have a day of rest? I do not think it matters what day it is (pastors certainly do not get a day of rest on Sundays!), as long as you have one. A day when you don’t exert yourself a great deal physically, don’t do your job, and don’t do too much driving. A day to relax, read, watch a movie with your bride, play games with your family, share a meal with friends, and yes, have sex. I think a day like this would be good for our bodies, our minds, and our marriages.

If the idea appeals to you, check my “Margin” series, or get the book that inspired the series – Margin: Restoring Emotional, Physical, Financial, and Time Reserves to Overloaded Lives.

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Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:

Assume Love

When You Know You’re Right ◄ Two choices, one is wise.
Not All Your Problems Are Marriage Problems ◄ Here’s how to tell if it is.

Black and Married with Kids

What’s in Your Relationship Toolbox? ◄ Some basic tools to get you started.
4 Proven Acts That Will Show Your Wife You Love Her ◄ Good stuff!

The Generous Wife

In Praise of Baby Steps ◄ A sure way to grow.
The Driveway Wars ◄ A great guest post – find a solution.
Sanity is Important ◄ Is my bride trying to tell me something?

Hot, Holy and Humorous

Is Sex Work? ◄ And if it is, is that okay?

Journey to Surrender

Man Up and Take the Intimacy Challenge ◄ I dare you.


“Christian Couple” – Is it just a cute title, or an actual lifestyle? ◄ A great rant !

One Flesh Marriage

Please Don’t Hurt Me ◄ Conflict – it’s a part of every marriage.
I Hate Conflict ◄ More on conflict.

Pearl’s OysterBed

­Sexual Variety and Libido ◄ A good read.

refine us

An Overflow of the Heart ◄ Words … 

The Respected Husband

101 Ways to Love your Wife is an excelent series, with ideas broken into topics:

The Romantic Vineyard

Do You Do This? ◄ Are you praying for your spouse?
Have You Neglected This In Your Marriage? ◄ Do you take your spouse for granted?

Stupendous Marriage

Sexual Variety in Marriage, Switching to a Better Partner and Divorce – Stupendous Marriage Show 61 ◄ A good show, and a scary caricature of Stu.

…to Love Honor and Vacuum

Can Men Nag, Too?…And Other Questions About Nagging ◄ Some do, do you?

5 Comments on “Got Sabbath? Should you?

  1. Yup, we’ve been happily keeping the gift of the Sabbath for many years now, from Friday sundown to Saturday sundown; it’s like a wonderful little holiday every week! :) I think it does matter what day, as God set aside the seventh day and BLESSED it, so if you decide on another day, you might get rest, but I wonder if you miss any extra blessing. Imagine you told your wife you wanted a date with her, and she said, “Yes”, and she waited for you to show up on a certain day, and you said, “Well, I decided to have the date on Tuesday, but you weren’t there.” Not much of a date. We have been blessed from keeping Sabbath, sometimes inconvenienced, but never let down.
    You could also look at it like this: Sunday through Friday are glasses of water, but the Sabbath is the finest wine! (or whatever you like) :D

  2. I’m glad it doesn’t matter what day. I’m on duty at the fire station every third Saturday. Hey, some things can’t shut down completely on the weekend. In the NT they met on the first day. FWIW my personal planner starts each week on a Monday and ends on a Sunday. My perception is Sunday is the 7th. Anyhow…. I don’t think the legalism of what day is important. What is important is to stop and rest.

  3. Of course necessary things like medical and fire stations must be available everyday. That’s a given.

    It wasn’t until around the time of Constantine in the 4th century that Christians kept the 1st day, Sunday.
    Anyway, it’s just a legalistic to say it’s on any other day, and must be that way.

  4. @alan I don’t think you understand what legalism is. When Jesus denounced legalism He wasn’t denouncing people for keeping God’s holy commands, He was denouncing them keeping *their own* commands. HUGE difference. By claiming that Jesus discouraged the keeping of the teachings given by God, you call Jesus a sinner. The Pharisees followed the letter of the law, and their own add-on laws, and ignored the spirit of the law. jesus NEVER told them not to follow the real laws, only not to follow the add-on teachings that were made by men not God.
    When you claim that the NT church met on the first day of the week, I assume you are referring to Acts 20:7 which is translated as, “On the first day of the week we came together to break bread….” If this is indeed the verse you are referring to, then I can only assume that you are unaware that this is a mistranslation. The phrase that is translated “day of the week” is actually “sabbaton”, which is sabbath, which very specifically refers to the SEVENTH day of the week. So the verse actually says they met on the first Sabbath/Saturday.
    God says it matters which day, He tells us this repeatedly throughout scripture. Jesus and the disciples observed the correct day. But we are also told that there will be false teachers and false believers, and that these people will justify profaning His holy day. And when Jesus returns such people will call, “Lord, Lord!” and He will tell them to depart, because He never knew them. And then what does He call them? Practitioners of lawlessness, aka, those who broke God’s law. Following God’s commands isn’t legalism, it’s obedience. Failing to follow His laws is rebellion.

  5. @Kathleen absolutely Kathleen! Counterfeits aren’t nearly as good as the real thing! Our enemy wants to keep us from God’s ways, and this is just one of his many ploys to do so. One that works on a good many people, unfortunately. Scripture shows us that people are not blessed by trying to do things their own way, only by doing things God’s way are they blessed. Let the pagans worship their false deity on their Sun Day, I’ll worship the *true* Lord on His day, the 7th day, Saturday (Genesis 2:2-3, Exodus 20:8-11, Exodus 34:21, Leviticus 23:3, Deuteronomy 5:12-15, Hebrews 4:4.) Which, as you pointed out, really begins on what we consider Friday night.
    The true Sabbath is an identifying marker by which God’s true followers are known (Ezekiel 20:12-24)
    “If you turn back your foot from the Sabbath, from doing your pleasure on my holy day, and call the Sabbath a delight and the holy day of the Lord honorable; if you honor it, not going your own ways, or seeking your own pleasure, or talking idly; then you shall take delight in the Lord, and I will make you ride on the heights of the earth; I will feed you with the heritage of Jacob your father, for the mouth of the Lord has spoken.” Isaiah 58:13-14
    “Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill them. For truly, I say to you, until heaven and earth pass away, not an iota, not a dot, will pass from the Law until all is accomplished. Therefore whoever relaxes one of the least of these commandments and teaches others to do the same will be called least in the kingdom of heaven, but whoever does them and teaches them will be called great in the kingdom of heaven.” Matthew 5:17-19. So the very Lord of the Sabbath (Matthew 12:8) confirms that He did NOT come to abolish the law or the prophets, yet that is the very thing people continually accuse Him of doing.
    What else does scripture say of those who claim to be His, but do not keep the commands of scripture? “Whoever says, “I know him,” but does not do what he commands is a liar, and the truth is not in that person.” 1 John 2:4

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