A full 20% of my posts carry the I_choose tag – this is another major one for me.
Choosing is powerful and wise use of choice can make your life much better. Some thoughts on choice:
- We usually have more choices than we think. For a variety of reasons, we tend to get tunnel vision, seeing only two choices when we have many, or only a few of the many we actually have.
- We are often offered less than all the choices. Many people try to control and manipulate by offering a limited set of choices – do not fall for this!
- Life is full of false dichotomies. Learning to question two answer choices is one of the smartest things you can do.
- Wrong assumptions limit our choices. What we assume can cause us to think a choice is not available, or will be rejected.
- Not choosing is actually making a choice – especially if you know what will happen if you “don’t choose” or if by not choosing you leave the choice up to someone else. In other words, abdication is a choice, but a very poor one.
- Doing nothing is a choice, and sometimes it is a very good choice.
- Rushing to choose when choosing right now is not necessary is a good way to choose poorly. Taking time to think/pray/sleep on it is always wise. If it is a major decision, seeking the wisdom of others is also a good idea.
- What was a great choice in the past can be a poor choice now and a bad choice in the future. Re-examine your choices regularly.
- Pride can keep us from changing once we choose, which is a bad thing. Being able to say “I was wrong” and changing direction is a sign of maturity and self-confidence.
- Some choices are beyond our ability – we cannot choose something that requires others to act unless they are willing to do what we want.
- Our choices have profound affects others, especially those closest to us. What you choose can help or hurt your spouse, and can open options for them or place limitations on them.
The bottom line is choice is a very powerful tool for good or harm. Choose often, and choose well.