The kindness tag is on 10% of my posts. You might think kindness is such an obvious requirement for a good marriage it would not need to be mentioned, or only mentioned rarely. Sadly, this is not the case, as anyone who ministers to marriages in any way knows all too well.
You would expect a lack of kindness by the time a couple seeks help (or has help thrust upon them by concerned family and friends) but the cause and effect are not what you might think. A reduction in marital kindness usually precedes real problems, resulting in a loss of relationship, accelerating hard feelings and bad behaviour. Minor bad feelings reduce kindness, which makes the other spouse feel worse, which causes them to be less kind, and a vicious cycle is born.
- Kindness usually begets kindness.
- A lack of kindness and unkindness also tend to result in the same.
- Kindness is usually most needed when it is most difficult to do.
- Kindness can include what you say, how you say it, and what you choose not to say.
- You lose nothing by being kind when you do not “have to be” kind.
- If you start off unkindly, it is very difficult to back up to being kind.
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