Don’t Waste Time Looking for Non-existent Doors

One of the links I recently shared on Twitter was There is no door #4 from Kim of Too Darn Happy. It is an excellent article and I suggest you go read it while I throw a log on the fire.

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I have seen plenty of people, and couples, waste time trying to find non-existent doors. They see several options, but they do not like any of the options, so they keep looking… and looking… and looking… Other times they see a door they like which they cannot reach, and rather than using one of the doors they can use they keep looking at the one across the way that they cannot reach. Often times they do not even work on building a bridge to the one they like but cannot reach.

Sometimes you can put something off in hopes a better option will become available, but often doing nothing is more harmful than most of the available options. First, decide if you need to act or if you can safely wait. If waiting is a bad idea, look at the available options and go with the best one.

A related pet peeve: Ever heard the saying “When God closes a door, He opens a window?” I have always had a problem with that. Jesus said, “I stand at the door and knock” not “I crouch at the window ready to crawl in”. I have seen a lot of “windows” turn out to be very bad choices. Sometimes God closes a door as a way of saying “NO!” 

And they went through the region of Phrygia and Galatia, having been forbidden by the Holy Spirit to speak the word in Asia.” [Act 6:16 ESV]

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