The Eggshell Dance: Just Say No!
Ever felt you had to walk on eggshells around your bride (maybe two days a month)? Has she ever acted as if she were walking on eggshells around you? Either way, it is not a healthy thing.
Sure, we should be aware of our spouse’s mood and stress level, and adjust what we say and do accordingly. However, there’s a problem if we cannot be kindly honest about who we are and how we feel. Waiting till they are not in the middle of something, or have had a bite to eat, sure, but having to shelve things for days at a time is bad for a marriage.
If you have been doing this, you need to confess it to your wife. Yes confess, as in you did wrong. Tell her you are sorry, and you are going to change. What, you will ask me, do you then do when you don’t walk on eggshells and she explodes? Then you deal with it- you deal with her wrong. You see, walking on eggshells is really a way of avoiding her bad/wrong/sinful behaviour, and if you avoid it, you cannot call her on it. If you want it to end, you have to let her do what is wrong and then confront her about it.
If you think your bride has been walking on eggshells, start by honestly looking at yourself to see if you have given her any reason(s). If you have, deal with those wrong things before you ask her to stop her eggshell dance. If you have given her cause to do it, let her know you understand and are working to change. Tell her not walking on eggshells will help because it will help you see if you have dealt with the problem or need to keep working.