I lay before you … CHOOSE …

I call heaven and earth to witness against you today, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and curse. Therefore choose life…” [Deut 30:19a]

It seems God is big on choice. God gives clear choices, and He holds us accountable for what we choose. What’s more, His choices do not leave us an opt out option; not choosing is in fact a choice, and usually it is not the wise choice.

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Much of life is this way; clear choices, with only one being sane. Marriage is often this way – either we choose the right and good, or we and our spouse both suffer. There are times where there are more choices than we are offered (see here for more on that) but sometimes it’s a simple as A or B, and if you don’t choose A you get B.

If you are given to being passive, letting life happen around you, please realise you are often making choices by not choosing. Don’t blame others when you get stuck with the default.

If your wife is given to being passive, do all you can to help her. When you give her a choice, make it clear and simple. If there’s a default if she does not choose, make sure she understands that.

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Dare to love wastefully. (Is there any other choice?) @AskLaurieWatson

Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:


Featured Post – A must read article I saw this week:
Julie at Intimacy in Marriage posted “Wish You Could Speak to My Wife Before I Leave” ◄ “I vowed monogamy when I got married, and she gave me celibacy.” I don’t usually point to article for you to show your wife, but if you are on the verge of leaving over sex, you should consider pointing your wife to this.


Black and Married with Kids

Do You Have S.M.A.R.T. Marriage Goals for 2013? ◄ This well-known acronym is indeed a smart way to set goals.

The Generous Wife

Walking in the Word ◄ Do some Bible study together.
Generous Choices ◄ A win/win.
Is He Your Valentine? ◄ Make that she – but the point is V-day is on the way!
Men Friends ◄ Or Women friends. Should you?

Hot, Holy and Humorous

11 Reasons I Love My Sexy Husband ◄ You can pick up some good hints here.

Journey to Surrender

Dress For Success – Put On Love ◄ The how to part.
Dress for Success – Put on Kindness ◄ Kindness if foundational.

Marriage Works

Feeling Entitled Weakens Your Marriage ◄ This is so true!

Pearl’s OysterBed

Winds of Change: A Husband’s Profound Influence on Her Sex Drive ◄ You cannot change her, but you can nudge her in the right direction.
Mr. Muscle’s Courage ◄ Learn what a woman sees as courage in a man.

Redeeming Marriages with Jack and Janet

Yes We Can Even When We’re Not Happy ◄ Speaking of choices …
Yes We Can Because We’re On The Same Team ◄ “Don’t Let Your Spouse Become Your Enemy.” AMEN!!

refine us

Moving Beyond Ordinary ◄ Another choice. (BTW, I’ve just started the book.)

The Romantic Vineyard

On Thoughtfulness ◄ “When was the last time you did something thoughtful for your spouse?”

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