If You Think Valentine’s Matters too Much to Her
On Saturday I commented many men feel not having sex on Valentine’s Day is a bad commentary on how their wife feels about their marriage. I had a couple of e-mail comments saying this only matters when sex is less often than desired; if you can have it pretty much any time you want it, then it really doesn’t matter if it does or doesn’t happen on any specific day.
I think the same is true for much of what women seem to “expect” on special days like Valentine’s. Sure, there’s a romantic value to something extra on special days, and if a woman is romantically inclined she will want certain things for that reason. However, if a woman is getting all the romance, flowers, quality time, touch, and whatever else she needs, getting those things on Valentine’s Day won’t be nearly as important to her as for a woman who feels neglected most of the time.
In other words, if your wife makes a huge deal out of Valentine’s Day, maybe it is an indication she feels neglected the other 364.25 days of the year. That is not the only explanation, but it is one you should consider. If she feels cheated by not getting something for Valentine’s, ask yourself if you should be doing more for her in general.