Safe or Brave?
Jon says there are two kinds of opportunities – safe ones and brave ones. Jon, who embodies the spirit of entrepreneurship, is talking about business opportunities, but what he says is true for the opportunities in our marriages as well. There’s safe, and there’s brave. Safe usually works out okay, while brave may not. However, safe rarely changes things, while brave opportunities can change your life and marriage for the rest of your life. Brave is also fun, as Jon points out.
Let’s go further; let’s talk about making opportunities. You can turn your dreams into opportunities. Safe dreams will become safe opportunities, while brave (or crazy) dreams become brave (or crazy) opportunities.
I think always going with the safe choice is boring and results in a life that gets smaller and smaller. Brave choices lead to an exciting life that keeps growing, and an exciting marriage that keeps growing. The biggest challenge is we tend to marry someone who balances us. So, if you’re all about brave, your wife is probably more geared towards safe (and vice versa). This can be a good thing, as it keeps the “most brave” among us from doing (too many) really crazy things. The trick for the “safe” spouse is to learn to be ballast rather than an anchor.
If you’re the safe one, loosen up a bit. Yes, it’ll be a wild ride, but it’ll be a great ride, and it’ll be a ride that takes your marriage some great places. If you’re the brave one, understand you scare her at times, and accept she can be an important balance if you let her.
Have more brave dreams, and turn some of those into brave opportunities.