One size fits all… NOT!
Ever seen “OS” on a piece of clothing’s size tag? OS means “one-size-fits-all”. When I see this I always think “all of what?” No matter how stretchy something is, it’s going to be too big for some, and too small for others. At best it fits a majority of those in the middle, with some on either side it won’t fit.
What you read here, and on other marriage blogs, and in books, is much the same; it will not fit every marriage. Writers who have a handle on the range of marriages will usually do a good job at hitting the folks in the middle, while missing those on various sides. Writers who don’t have a handle on the range of marriages say things that work for their marriage – even if their marriage significantly differs from the norm.
If you’re reading blogs to improve your marriage, understand you’ll never find one that’s a perfect fit for your marriage. Learn to reject the things clearly not for your marriage. Just be sure you’re rejecting it because it doesn’t fit, not because you don’t like it, or it seems like too much work, or it seems “unfair”. The things we don’t like are often what we most need to hear.
BTW: If you’re writing a blog, do everything you can to learn about a wide variety of marriages. Read as much as you can. Get to know couples with unusual marriages. Ask questions – all the time.