Afterplay for More and Better Sex
What happens when you and your bride are “finished” with sex?
Maybe for you it’s over; time to move on to the next thing, be that sleep, a snack, a bit of TV, some gaming, or whatever else. Thing is, it’s not over for her. Climax isn’t the end for her, and if you make it the end you’re cheating her and costing yourself.
Sex releases a huge array of hormones and other chemicals into our bodies. If you climax inside her without a condom, she gets even more hormones and chemicals, which are very rapidly absorbed into the bloodstream. Sex alters her mind and emotions; it makes her feel good, relaxed, loving, trusting, and open. This is especially true when she climaxes, but it occurs to some degree even when she doesn’t. What happens when she’s in this state is significant, and it has a long-lasting effect on your her. If you break contact before she wants, she’ll feel rejected. Doing something to make her feel unloved or unneeded immediately after sex is not a good plan! If she regularly feels rejected after sex, she’ll be less and less interested in having sex – even if she’s not aware of the loss of interest or why she feels it. On the other hand, if you give her what she needs after climax, you make her feel very good. She’ll feel loved and cared for. She’ll feel closer to you, more trusting, and more hopeful for the future. If this happens after every act of sex, it’s likely that she will have an increased desire for sex. Again, she may not feel the change, or have any idea why it is happening.
Of course, you should give your wife the cuddling and loving talk she needs after sex because you love her and what to bless her. However, I see nothing wrong with using what it will do for you sexually to help motivate you to do what is right. You both get more of what you want and need, and I call that a major win!