Yes and No
More thoughts on applying The Sermon on the Mount to marriage.
“But I say to you, Do not take an oath at all… Let what you say be simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’” [Mt 5:34a & 37a ESV]
There is some debate among scholars about what Jesus meant here. Some say He was forbidding any oath at all, while others argue Jesus was dealing with the proliferation of false and manipulative oaths common among Jewish leaders at the time. I tend to fall on the latter argument because we have examples of Paul making an oath (Gal 1:20 for example), and of Jesus answering when asked to swear “by the living God” (Mt 26:63&64).
Leaving that aside, the bigger picture is we should be so faithful to do what we say that no oath is necessary. If you say you’ll do something, do it. If you say you’ll not do something, don’t do it.
Trust is a vital ingredient for a healthy, happy marriage, and being a man of your word is a sure way to build solid trust.
Great tweet of the week:
My goal is to end each day with my wife thinking “Wow, this man couldn’t possibly love me more than today!” …then improving it tomorrow…@SongSix3
Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:
New blog this week – Do Not Disturb. I’ve been reading and tweeting this couple a good while, need to add them here.
Featured Post – A must read article I saw this week:
Julie over at Intimacy in Marriage posted Dad, Will You Teach Me What It Means to be A Man? ◄ If you don’t, who will?
Black and Married with Kids
Your Side, Your Spouse’s Side and The Truth ◄ The three sides of very story.
Do Not Disturb
Compartmentalization: Spirituality vs. Sexuality ◄ What, God cares about sex?
Identity Crisis ◄ How to help your spouse deal with difficult questions.
Personal Pursuits and a Question ◄ How are your personal pursuits affecting your marriage?
The Generous Wife
Hot, Holy and Humorous
A Seussical Sex Life ◄ A fun read.
Intimacy in Marriage
Is Sex Really All that Important in Marriage? ◄ Julie argues it is vital.
“At Least I Don’t…” ◄ Never a good start.
Five Things Your “High Drive Spouse” May Never Tell You ◄ Very well done – something you might want to share with your wife.
One Flesh Marriage
Are you looking for lessons or ammunition? ◄ Brilliant!
The Romantic Vineyard
Is Your Spouse A Prisoner Of Your Expectations? ◄ Set them free!
15+ Tips For Great Communication In Marriage ◄ A very good list.
What’s Your Filter? ◄ Knowing is the first step to not using it.
Does Your Wife Know All The Little Things You Love About Her? ◄ A follow up on my “Little Things” post, with the music video.