The Danger of Perfectionism
“If I can’t be perfect, why even try.” ~ Unknown
Perfectionism is a good way to destroy a marriage. I’m not saying nothing matters, I’m not saying don’t try to do better, and I’m not saying we should stop hoping and praying for our spouse to do better. However, expecting perfection from your spouse or yourself isn’t healthy!
Usually the perfectionist doesn’t expect true perfection, but rather something far closer to perfect than their spouse is able or willing to achieve. Often such a “near perfectionist” is only asking their spouse to live up to the standard they near live themselves. While this no doubt seems “fair” to the near perfectionist, it can be both unfair and harmful to a marriage.
Be honest with yourself – are you a near perfectionist?