Are You Excelling at the Cost of Your Marriage?
Lori Lowe of Marriage Gems had a great post today – Don’t be Afraid to Underachieve in Life to Better Achieve in Your Family Life. Go give it a read, and come back by here it you want to read my thoughts.
What grabbed me most was this:
“I’m never going to be all I could be, and I don’t want to be. In America that’s counter-cultural… Achieve in your marriage and with your children, and not in what the world expects of you.” ~ Former Indianapolis Colts punter Hunter Smith.
Being your absolute best in any area means you will be less than your best in just about every other area. If you’re married, you have an obligation to your wife that prevents you from giving 100% elsewhere. The same is true for your kids if you are a father. According to Paul (the one from the NT) the same is true even for our walk with the Lord:
“But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided.” [1 Cor 7:33-34a ESV]
Paul does not state this as wrong, but as inevitable for a married man. This is why Paul thought it best not to be single, since for those who must be married (which seems to be the majority) divided interest is proper.
Does your marriage suffer because you put too much into your job? Or, maybe you put too much into a hobby. On, it could be your wife who is putting too much into something, leaving her doing too little in your marriage.