Is it Wrong to Augment?
So all the rest of this aside, is it wrong for a woman to have her breasts enlarged?
Some will say yes, absolutely – we shouldn’t alter how God made us. I could argue we do that by cutting and trimming our hair, dyeing our hair, getting our teeth capped, or even working out beyond what is necessary for good health. But those are all weak arguments in my mind. Let’s look at a couple of other things:
The woman I mentioned in the original post had lost both size and firmness due to nursing her children, and she was just looking to get back to where she was originally. Is this different from wanting more? Is one okay and the other not?
What about women who want to get a reduction? Large breasts can be a significant problem for a woman. It’s hard to find clothes that fit well, some activities are difficult or impossible, men stare and make assumptions about her, and it can lead to serious back pain. Big breasts can honestly be a handicap, and few of us say it is wrong to have surgery to overcome a handicap! What about women who are asymmetrical – one breast noticeably larger than the other?
If surgery to have less or even breasts is okay, then how can we say surgery to have more is wrong? Why does enlarging seem “less right” than reducing or evening out? I suspect the issue is one of intent. We think wanting bigger is about trying to look sexier, an issue of pride.
I think we men should admit we can’t possibly understand what a small chested woman feels. While we only have to deal with sexual comparisons in the locker room, a woman’s breast size is on display 24/7 for everyone who sees her. How would we feel if the length of our penis was tattooed on our forehead? How would we feel if that was the case and we were much smaller than most men?
It would be nice for everyone to be satisfied with what they have, be it breasts, penis, hairline, or height; but how many of us have achieved that? I don’t know where to draw the line between a reasonable modification of the body and an unreasonable one, but I suspect the reason for doing it is the main issue.
If I were faced with my bride wanting to have her breasts enlarged, I’d try to be understanding and open to discussion. I’d start by telling her I like how she is, and I really don’t want her to change, but I understand she may feel she needs to do it for herself. Then I would suggest a serious search to learn the reality of the procedure, including possible side effects or problems, pain, recovery time, loss of sensation, interference with mammograms, need for replacement, and how most women feel after they have the procedure done. I think this is a loving, supportive way of dealing with the issue, and I think it would communicate I’m perfectly happy with the how she currently looks.