- You put in a dog door so the dog will stop making a mess on the carpet at night. This solves the dog problem, but a week later, you wake to a raccoon in the kitchen.
- You send your wife a very explicit text. Your five-year-old sees it and your wife gets to do some unscheduled sex education.
- You go after a fly with such vengeance you break a window.
Unintended consequences can be good or bad, but all too often, they’re negative. We see unintended consequences all around us – in business, in government, and in relationships – including our marriages. Sometimes the best of intentions results in something no one foresaw, and no one wants.
Thinking through things before you do them can help, and thinking through things with your wife is even better, but you will still have unintended consequences from time to time. The best thing you can do as a couple is to learn to laugh and not get upset at each other.