Happy, or Comfortable

“Are you really happy or just really comfortable?”

That question has popped up all over social media sites in the last few days. I think it is an excellent question.

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I’m not opposed to comfort, but when we get comfortable we’re less likely to do things that really matter – things that make a difference. The Gospel message has always spread more when Christians were uncomfortable then when they were comfortable. In like fashion, most marriage growth comes during times of discomfort.

“The good is the enemy of the best.”

This is more or less the same idea. We reach a point we think is “good enough” and we get complacent. We become comfortable enough that we stop working to better things. 

The real danger in this is most things get worse without ongoing effort. If your job, your marriage, your sex life, or your golf game was “good enough” a year ago and you did nothing to work on it, now it’s not as good as it was a year ago. The good enough standard tends to be a sliding scale that accepts less and less until it gets really bad.

Let me be blunt: Your marriage is not good enough. It may be good, it may even be great, but it can and should be better. The same is true for your sex life. 

Maybe a good way to think about this would be:

“Are you really where God wants you or just comfortable?”

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Great tweet of the week:

You tend to become like the folks you hang out with. Associate with folks who will encourage you. @GenerousWife

Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:


The Generous Wife

A Walk One Winter Night ◄ A different take on Christmas.

Intimacy in Marriage

54 Sexy Ways to Strengthen Your Marriage in 2014 ◄ Maybe you can go over this list with your wife?


“You’re going to do WHAT, WHERE?!” – (Vasectomy questions answered) ◄ Good article if you are thinking about getting snipped.

refine us

Sometimes It’s the Small Miracles That Change Everything ◄ Don’t overlook the small miracles!

The Romantic Vineyard

Romantic New Year’s Eve Ideas for Her ◄ Some nice ideas here.

Safe at home

What It Will Take To Keep A Resolution This Year ◄ Here’s how to make it happen.

2 Comments on “Happy, or Comfortable

  1. This reminded me of the story of the frog in the water pot. slowly turn up the heat and it boils to death (comfort). Toss the frog into the water already hot (uncomfortable) and it hops out to safety.

    Our lives and our marriages need to be in some “hot water” at times to be tested and improved.

    Thanks for the reminder, Paul.

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