Why You Should be in Touch With Your Emotions.

I’ve mentioned Emotionally Healthy Spirituality: Unleash a Revolution in Your Life In Christ several times (see my review here). I may also have mentioned I’m part of a group of couples going through the book together. Some of our recent reading and discussion have been on being aware of and in touch with our emotions. This crossed my mind as I was replying to a comment on yesterday’s post on our susceptibility to having an affair.

When we know our emotions and take the time to feel them and think through them we can be in control. When we’re not aware of our emotions they can easily allow us to get into bad situations, and can push us to do things we shouldn’t. 

If my wife were neglecting me, and I’d thought about it and how it makes me feel and had worked through it in my mind, I think I would be rather unlikely to fall into adultery. On the other hand, if I were stuffing my pain and not working through my feelings in my own mind I think I would be far, far more in danger of cheating.

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Buried emotions are like land mines scattered across our lives. We can get hurt by stepping on them, and others can be hurt by us when they step on them. A common result/sign of buried emotions is anger that seems to come out of no place for a minor issue. 

I know dealing with “bad” emotions is no fun, and I get why it’s tempting to stuff them. Unfortunately, they always catch up to us, and when they do it almost always ends badly for us.

mini-upgradeAre you in touch with your emotions? If not, learning to be will make you a much better husband.

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5 Comments on “Why You Should be in Touch With Your Emotions.

  1. Good reminder.  We as men typically don’t do emotions well and have a lot of arrested development/immaturity in our lives. If we can’t really work through our emotions in a healthy way (e.g., not staying in a hurt place), we won’t be able to love our wives as Christ loved the church.  

    Men – grow-up and face your emotions, listen to your wife and allow her feedback to help you better respond to her.  Don’t get defensive or prideful, really listen and tune into your wife’s feelings in particular.  As you are able to take them in you will find yourself able to better deal with your own emotions.  

    OK now I want to read the book and dig deeper.  Thanks for sharing! :)

  2. DavidWCarr I saw a claim recently that brain scans show men have stronger initial emotional reactions than women, but are far better as pressuring those emotions. I need to do some study on that.

    Regardless, we do need to learn how to face and deal with our emotions.

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