I’m Not Getting What I Deserve
Yesterday I talked about telling my wife I wasn’t giving her what she deserved. After I said that to her, I said, “And you’re not giving me what I deserve.”
I wasn’t attacking her or trying to get something from her. I didn’t mention anything specific. Actually, the statement was about me, not about her. I see her imperfections and tendency to selfishness just as I see mine, and I realise that just like her, I deserve better. I was also putting the two things on a level playing field. Each of us struggles, each of us falls short. I can acknowledge that as a fact without getting all worked up about it.
In the past, I struggled to say to myself I deserved better, and I certainly wouldn’t have said it to her. I was able to do this now because I’m getting healthier and more balanced.
If you can’t imagine saying something like this to your wife, it says something about you, or her, or your relationship. If you’re all about telling her where she’s falling short but not about telling her you fall short with her, it says something about you.