Preferences, Sacrifice and Sex
One more post on preferences and sacrifices – this time in your sex life. And for this one, I want to go beyond moral issues.
Most men would love to have a wife who is all about sex, and sex in all kinds of different ways. The reality is many women are not this way. Most new husbands are light years ahead of their wife in terms of sexual desire and sexual variety. And because most men don’t understand this, many of them run their wife over with sex. (And then back up to see what the bump in the road was.)
I understand what you want, and there’s probably nothing wrong with what you want. But if your wife’s not up to it, pushing her for it will only make things worse. I’ve had countless wives tell me they know they can never satisfy their husband sexually, and when that happens they stop trying. They throw him crumbs because they know they should, but because they’re convinced they can’t give him enough they make no effort to do better.
If your sexual preferences overwhelm or scare your wife, you really need to back off. In this situation sacrifice isn’t just kind, it’s wise. When you lower your expectations you show her she might be able to satisfy you if she’s willing to put in some effort. Making it seem like a reachable goal significantly improves the chance she will work at it. Your sacrifice could be richly rewarded in time!
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