When Silence Is A Warning Sign
So your wife is unhappy about something you do, or don’t do, or do too often or not often enough, and she brings it up regularly. Then suddenly she stops bringing it up, even though you haven’t changed. Does her no longer talking about it means she is over it, it’s no longer a problem for her?
No, it does not.
If you don’t change and she stops mentioning it, that doesn’t mean she has accepted it or changed her mind. It means she has figured out you don’t care enough to deal with it and she’s tired of beating a dead horse. She is just as unhappy about it as she has always been, but has figured out talking to you about it does nothing other than upset both of you. So she shuts up.
If you think this is a win for you, you don’t get it. She hasn’t accepted it, she has accepted that you won’t change. That means on top of hurting over the situation, she hurts because you’re unwilling to work on the issue.
Yesterday I told the women over on The XY Code they should make it clear they still don’t like something before they shut up about it. I said, “At the very least this lets him know you have not changed your mind. If he’s clever it will do more than that.” Men, if you’re clever you will see your wife shutting up about something as the problem it is. And if you’re wise, you’ll do something about it.
If you need more convincing, check the comments the women have left about this.