Perfect For EACH OTHER

My wife is nearly perfect…FOR ME. And she feels the same way about me (for some reason that escapes me). But this is very specific to who we are. Some women would think me to be a horrible husband, and some men wouldn’t feel about my wife as I do.

Perfect For EACH OTHER

Part of this “good fit” is because we talked and considered if we would be a good fit before we got married. Another part, I’d say a bigger part after 33 years, is that we’ve grown together and grown in much the same way. To some degree living together does that, but we’ve also made it a very intentional thing. There are certain things I don’t pursue as much as I would on my own because Lori’s not into them. There are other things I pursue more than I would on my own because Lori is very much into them. This is not about me denying myself of something I really want or forcing myself to do things I hate; it’s about focusing more or less on things I am okay to start with. It’s shifting myself to be a better match for her. Because Lori does the same for me (and even more so I think) we have developed a great deal of commonly enjoyed activities and preferences.

How do you bend to be more what your wife would like? Do you do that enough? Do you do it too much, perhaps because she does it too little? 

Image Credit: © miapowterr | pixabay.com
Shop Amazon ♦ Shop to give links page
We’re donation supported Thanks for your help!
This post may contain affiliate links, see my disclosure for info.

One Comment on “Perfect For EACH OTHER

  1. Had to think about this one…I’m perfect for Barb in some ways, but utterly dreadful in others. I’m a good listener, and can help defuse the stress she sometimes brings home from work, but in dealing with my illness I’m truly the wrong sort…she hates me attitude of ‘it could be worse’, because in a sense it invalidates both her sorrow and her ability to sympathize.

    I try to bend to that, at least when I speak to her, but without that kind of flippancy I’d be doing a lot worse.

Leave a Reply

%d bloggers like this: