Real Men Aren’t Afraid of Counselling
When I was growing up “real men” acted like going to marriage counselling was the same thing as volunteering to be castrated. I guess they thought it was better to be miserable, or end up alone, than to stoop to admitting they had a problem and getting help.
It’s not quite that bad these days, but there still seems to be a lot of resistance. Perhaps it’s more an issue of underestimating the problem and thinking “We can deal with this on our own.”
The problem is most of us had less than great examples of marriage growing up. Some of us had horrible examples, including one or more divorces for our parents. We are also surrounded by marriages that are mediocre at best. Many (most?) of us don’t have the tools to deal with marriages problems, and even if one spouse does the other may not.
Beyond getting help for problems, my friend Andrew has suggested every couple should have a “marriage checkup” with a counsellor every year. I love this idea because it makes it possible to deal with some things before they become a big deal. It can also find problems that the couple has not yet identified. And, it gives the counsellor a baseline to work with should there ever be any major issues.
Real men do whatever it takes to make their marriage great!
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