First You Have to Know
Giving your wife what she wants and needs requires knowing what she wants and needs.
In theory that should be simple. In practice, it often requires you to make like Mr. Holmes.
There are a couple of obstacles to knowing what she wants and needs.
- She is not a man. She doesn’t think or feel as you do, and some of what she desires is totally foreign to you.
- She assumes you know what she wants and just need a few simple hints or reminders.
Of course, asking her what she wants and needs should be a good plan, but she may feel it’s not the same if you don’t figure it out. I don’t like that kind of game, but some women seem to think it’s valid. If you’re stuck with that I suggest you make an effort to play. Not because it’s right, but because you love her enough to be the grownup in this instance.
Bottom Line: Gear up detective mode and watch your wife for clues. Try various things and see how she reacts. Trial and error will get you there if you keep at it. My Monday posts are a good source of ideas as they are usually simple and I try to hit all the things that women generally want.
And for any woman I’ve offended: I’m sorry. It’s how I feel, and most men are right there with me.